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Good morning everyone! Super pumped about this one.
I stole this DIRECTLY from Dale Carnegie and his book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” (a CLASSIC that I HIGHLY recommend).
I’ve been trying this tactic for a number of months now and can vouch for it 1000000%.
Simply put, it works.
Try this today, and let me know in the comments if it works for you as well.
Oh, and the kindest thing you can do, if this DOES work for you, is SHARE THIS LETTER WITH SOMEONE ELSE :)
Here’s what you do.
Step 1) Identify what you are worried about, actually.
This step is important, and kind of my own addition to Carnegies’ “Formula".
Sometimes, I will just feel anxious, for no apparent reason!
What’s up with that?! Anyone agree?
It’s very important, in that moment, to do a couple simple things.
A) Might sound stupid, but EAT SOMETHING (75% of the time I’m just hungry, lol)
B) Might sound stupider, but TAKE A NAP (20% of the time I’m just tired, lol)
C) For the other 5%, actually stop, take a deep breath. Go on a walk. Grab a coffee. And THINK
Another one of my favorite books “Thinking Fast & Slow” talks about the fact that we have 2 brains.
One brain is reactionary and automatic.
The other is slow, deliberate, and allows for reasoned thought.
DEFINITELY need to use your 2nd “slow brain” for this one to dig into what you are actually worried about :)
Step 2) Picture the worst case scenario.
This is where the magic happens.
You need to actually stop and think about everything going HORRIBLY wrong.
What if that thing you are worried about actually happened + ALL THESE OTHER BAD THINGS happened too? Then what?
Now, at this point, you might be thinking I’m crazy.
That’s okay, just stay with me.
Let me illustrate an actual example before we get on to #3 where it all will make sense.
The other day we almost missed payroll.
I know.
The same thoughts went through my head that you’re probably thinking now.
WTF.
Sweaty palms.
“How did we get here?”
Stupid BS like that, that doesn’t help anyone.
So I went into step 2, (note) it hurts at first.
READ THIS: You have to actually VISUALIZE IT like it’s HAPPENED TO YOU, and ACCEPT THAT THIS HAS ALREADY HAPPENED, AS A FACT - that’s important.
— We miss payroll
— people start complaining
— half the staff quits
— customers get left in the dust
— refunds spike
— complaints spike
— our credit cards start declining
— I have to sell my house and live in a box on the street
— my wife divorces me
OKAY OKAY OKAY hahahah I went a little TOO far on that one, but you get the point!!!!!!!!!
Step 3) How this makes you feel SO MUCH BETTER
Once you’ve pictured everything going to actual hell in a hand basket…
The magic starts.
There’s nothing else to worry about.
You’ve already accepted that everything hit the fan, that the worst case scenario actually happened.
Your brain now LITERALLY only has one direction to go in.
UP.
Before, it was scattered everywhere, random negative thoughts flying around like a stray fart in the wind.
And now, everything is crystal clear.
Your brain simply starts asking the question, now what?
Let’s say all that bad stuff happened above…
My example was extreme but let’s just go with it.
— We get thrown out on the street and my wife threatens to divorce me…
“okay, well, she loves me way to much to leave me, so I’m good there, and I’m pretty sure that if I just moved money from here to here we’d never actually get evicted, + isn’t it illegal to evict people right now?”
^^ as you can see these are my actual thoughts that come up almost automatically and start to make you feel better…
— refunds spike
— complaints spike
— our credit cards start declining
“well couldn’t I just personally call every customer and be honest with them and tell them that I would personally make it right, and then make it right? Honestly, that might IMPROVE the reputation of the company not hurt us…”
— We miss payroll
— people start complaining
— half the staff quits
“well, couldn’t I just go liquidate a couple Bitcoin, or even better yet get a LOAN against my Bitcoin?? hmm… that might work! We might be good to go!”
I could go on, but do you see it working??? It’s almost automatic!
THE REASON THIS WORKS IS SIMPLE.
Whether you believe it or not.
Whether the World has beaten you down a lot, or not.
YOU ARE A FIGHTER.
When your back is against the wall.
When everything else has caved in around you.
And it’s simply survive or die.
You SURVIVE.
That’s just how you are WIRED.
So all you have to do to harness this BASIC INSTINCT is to GO TO THAT DARK PLACE with your EYES WIDE OPEN.
PICTURE IT GOING BADLY.
And you will automatically find a way out.
Welp, that's enough words for one day.
Go TRY IT.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT.
Love always.
Kale
p.s. The payroll thing really was an accounting issue, lol, the company is doing great. Our tax bill was just massive so we had to move some money around. No worries.
p.s.s. I’m guessing this HELPED a few of you. If it didn’t, I should probably quit writing because I KNOW this works (from experience). So if it helped you please COMMENT that it did but most importantly, subscribe and SHARE this with AT LEAST 5 PEOPLE THAT WOULD BENEFIT FROM IT! THANK YOU!
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