Stop trying to change people.

Open this if you’ve ever been frustrated in any relationship you’ve ever been in…

Hey everyone, short note today, I don’t feel like I need to write you an essay every day :)

One thing that I’ve been thinking about a lot (I know you’ll be shocked :) is the 1% rule.

1% of your actions result in 99% of your results….

1% of your decisions result in 99% of your outcomes…

If you don’t believe me, just try to think about that for a few seconds… I bet you will find that there is a HUGE difference in the GRAVITY of certain decisions and actions, rather than others…

I’ve also been thinking about this in terms of FRIENDSHIPS…

The 1% rule literally applies to everything…

So, honestly, I think this is probably true…

1% of your FRIENDSHIPS will bring you more JOY and HAPPINESS than the other 99%, combined….

I’ve been personally a little frustrated lately by a few characteristics in some of my friends.

Some of it is little stuff…

Some of it is BIG stuff…

But regardless, I’ve been noticing it lately…

And naturally, as a “fixer”, I’ve been thinking about how to help these friends fix these areas that I honestly think are hurting them and their happiness….

But the more I was thinking…

The more I realized that that was a REALLY dumb thing to do….

Ever tried to change someone?

Like honestly change something that is CORE to their personality?

Pretty hard, huh?

Damn near impossible, maybe….

So, when I consider that unfortunate fact IN CONJUNCTION with the 1% rule, that tells me that 99% of my friends aren’t really making me the BEST version of myself anyway….

It leads me to the awkward conclusion….

That I may honestly just need to go look for stronger friendships….

I’m not saying abandon your friends, or that I am abandoning mine….

I’m just saying that the facts are the facts…

1) You can’t change people, really.

2) The 1% rule states that the best use of your time is to find better people rather than trying to change people.

Again, this might be rambling a little bit today, but hopefully it’s helping someone out there…

I just feel like many of us SETTLE.

We settle for relationships, whether they are romantic or just friendships, that are LESS than that 1% target.

They are more or less the 99% of the AVERAGE that everyone has, nothing too miserable, nothing too incredible.

I just think we are designed for something more.

And from watching this 1% rule play out in EVERY area of my life over the past 4 years…

1) Financially - 1% of decisions leading to 99% of wealth

2) Marriage - Finding that 1% girl leading to 99% of my happiness

3) Faith - Finding that 1% Church leading to 99% of my purpose…

4) Friendships - Finding those 1% friends that lead to 99% of my joy in the friendship department

You get the idea.

It IS real, and I think many of you reading or listening to this need to choose your battles.

Would you rather battle against the REALITY that IS the 1% rule which applies to literally everything.

Or instead fight gravity and try to fix someone who will never be in that 1% no matter how hard you try?

The choice is yours.

I know this was a random topic today but if this helped you please consider signing up for the free trial of this letter and most importantly forwarding this email to someone who you think it could help….

Kale